Living in the Here and Now
Some of you may know the story of how I came to write a book about Sunshine Blake—she knew she was dying and asked me to tell her incredible life story—which I did in the form of a novel. What you may not know—and what I would like to share is—how much our meetings meant and changed my life.
Sunshine was the eternal optimist. She believed that no matter you wanted, the universe wanted you to have it, and would provide for you if you went for it. She also lived without worry because she felt that no matter what happened to you (short of killing you) was supposed to happen, and would make you stronger and better because of it.
Even though I watched her whittle away from week to week due to her illness, she never complained, never asked for anything, and never let me feel bad for her. Instead, she uplifted me each time we met (Wednesdays at her favorite bistro). I learned so much from our time together, but one thing stands out as the most valuable lesson.
Sunshine taught me to not blame anyone else (or anything else) for whatever wasn’t working in my life. Instead, she said to go out there and do something about it. Trust that things will work out, but do the work–control the things you can control. Blaming others for our failures is easy. Owning it, and fixing it is harder, but doable.
Thanks to readers of this blog, my new novel is now done. I asked for feedback on the cover and received a great response—and used the design most readers preferred. I also had two readers of this blog offer to edit the manuscript. Thank you all.
The Splendid Splinter is now available from Amazon in paperback.
The Splendid Splinter
Available From Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/y8t836ev
$10.00 / 130 Pages
Let me tell you a story. That sentence sounds a lot better than something like, let me tell you what to do. Stories put people at ease and make it easier for them to understand the message you want to convey–plus stories stick by penetrating deeper into our minds. Facts and figures go in one ear and out the other. However, facts woven into the right story can change minds. Stories are how we make sense of things. It’s the way our brains work.
Imagine this scene, three generations of a family sitting on a porch on a hot summer night sipping cold beverages and sharing stories about past adventures, struggles, and successes. This is how information was passed on from the leaders of a family to the future leaders before technology took over–and it worked. Fast forward to recent times and the best leaders also use stories to help others “see the big picture” and “put people in that picture”.
Maybe one of the best examples of a leader using stories to drive points home was Steve Jobs. He got people excited about technology in a way that never happened before. He dramatized his ideas (he walked on stage with a manilla folder and then pulled out the first MacBook Air to the delight of the crowd.) In his famous commencement speech at Stanford University, he told us three stories that held important life lessons. The ability to get others to do what we want them to do willingly and with gusto is a leadership trait that is enhanced by storytelling. The reason this works so well is multi-faceted, but here are three key examples of why facts tell and stories sell.
1. As a leader you must be able to reach all different kinds of thinkers. You undoubtably have to lead the left brainers (engineers, accountants, administrators) and as well as the right brainers (marketing, sales, human resources). Each respond to different types of communication. The left side of the brain likes facts and figures while the right side responds best to visuals. What they both can relate to are stories. (This is true for the whole brainers and the no brainers as well.) Everyone loves a good story.
2. For those (rare) people with a photographic memory you can simply show or tell them something and voila, they can recall it. For the other 99-percent of the people you can use a story as the anchor for an idea. Most people can recall a story and as a result can also remember the meaning or message attached to it. Telling a story to make a point or push an idea not only holds their attention and helps them relate, it also drills it deeper into their brain and attaches a label to it so they can recall it. Simply, they remember the story and the idea in their “Mind Palace” (a technique Sherlock Holmes made famous.)
3. Stories don’t have to be long to make an impression. Another skill that is crucial in today’s “beyond busy” world is to be able to get to the point quickly and cut though the clutter in people’s crowded brains. Short stories are what we need today. The ability to take something extremely complex and turn it into a catch phrase people will remember and rally around is harder than it sounds, but it can focus everyone on a common goal and get them to go the extra mile–even when they are up against the wall or facing a bigger and better foe.