I Trust You

My sons and I were getting a quick bite to eat and the total came to $18.03. I said to the cashier, “I have no sense, but I do have three cents in my car.” He replied, “I trust you,” and handed me two bucks back. Right away I went and got the pennies from my car—proving he could trust me.

This made me realize something, when you give people a good reputation to live up to, often times they will rise to the occasion. “I think it’s great you do your best to be on time,” you may say to the person who is chronically late. Sure enough, this person leaves a little earlier and arrives on time.

It’s the same thing with stating the positive outcome you desire instead of telling someone what you don’t want them to do. As a coach, I often tell my pitchers, “Throw strikes,” instead of, “Don’t walk this hitter.” It works . . . usually. You can do it to yourself, too. Years ago I said to myself, “I always remember my dreams.” Sure enough, I do.

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I Trust You

Sometimes the Impossible is Possible

As baseball coaches we sometimes sell kids short . . . literally. Sure, most kids aren’t going to make it to the big leagues–and those who will are likely to be the tallest ones. Yet, there are (and have been) plenty of players under six-feet tall.

Jose Altuve is 5’-6” “tall” and weighs 165 pounds, making him the smallest player in the big leagues. He is also the best hitter in baseball over the past six years, being chosen as an All Star and winning the World Series and Most Valuable Player Award in 2017.

When I was young ballplayer I was a Freddie Patek fan. Patek was an All Star shortstop with the Royals who led the league in several offensive and defensive categories. Freddie Patek was 5’-4” tall, but he played much bigger.

Patek once said, “I’d rather be the shortest player in the in the majors than the tallest player in the minors.” 

It’s not just being small ion stature and bucking the odds, it’s being seen as less-than-others in some way and overcoming.

Sometimes the Impossible is Possible

How To Quickly Feel Worse

Just when you’re feeling good about yourself you’ll hop on Facebook or Instragram and see someone standing next to their fancy new car, looking fabulous in their fashionable new clothes, or celebrating their amazing new job.

It’s natural (and honest) to feel envious or inadequate, to want all that (and more) for yourself. It’s human nature. However, if we don’t look at other people’s postings, maybe we won’t feel those twangs of envy. Just sayin’.

When we compare ourselves to others (and social media has brought this to the forefront) there are always going to be people who (seemingly) have more than we do. If you’re happy with who you are and what you have, enjoy it. Celebrate it. Appreciate it. Accept it.

The only other way to see it is to be happy for those who have “made it” or have it made. Or, use it to fuel your fire to lose weight, start a business, work harder, do more, and get your butt in gear. Turn envy into empathy and feelings of inadequacy into energy–and engage more in your own life.

How To Quickly Feel Worse

Remain Relevant

How to Always Be Needed

I was recently using recording software and the designers made the digital features look like the old analog ones—with knobs and sliders. It made me feel relevant because I took what I knew and it allowed me to do it better with new technology.

It’s easy to feel left behind by the latest and greatest of everything. It’s always been this way—things change—but it happens sooner, faster, and more often now.

So how do we stay relevant in an ever-changing world?
Just keep up on the areas of change that most impact you and your career.
Partner with people in the know and exchange your experience for their know how.
Go the other way and find people who still prefer the old way and offer them your goods or services.

Remain Relevant

It’s Not What You Think

“IT’S A FAMILY AFFAIR.” —Sly Stone

Many parents believe they are running a family. Many bosses believe they are running a business. Many Principals believe they are running a school. None of them are 100% correct.

The truth is each one is running a training company. Maybe the best example is the family as a training company. The best parents are instructors, motivators, and most of all, good examples to their kids.

It’s Not What You Think

Be True To You

“THEY CALL ME THE WORKING MAN, I GUESS THAT’S WHAT I AM.” —Rush

It’s no secret I have been a huge fan of the band Rush since 1977. I’m not the only one. The band inspires that kind of long term loyalty from fans worldwide. Why is that, and what can we learn from it?

The number one reason is they are unapologetic about their unique sound. The critics have always bashed the band, which won them more fans who also saw themselves as outside the mainstream.

Even when record sales were slow (and they were almost dropped by their label after their third album) they stuck to their guns and went on the road to win over fans with their inspiring live shows and musicianship.

What fans love is the honesty in Rush’s music—and their humility in spite of immense success. They do what they do best and attract others who appreciate them for not selling out–except every seat, every night.

Be true to you. The next article exemplifies how I made a minor shift after I was sick and spent the day listening to my entire Rush collection of music. I was inspired to live my truth and trusted that people will get it.

Be True To You

Give Them What They Want?

“THEY SOLD ME OUT FOR A FEW SHEKELS MORE.” —Van Morrison

After 27 years as a professional speaker and trainer I’ve accumulated a long list of topics I can and speak on. When I recently looked at the list I realized most of the presentations were created based on what the meeting planner requested. Give ‘em what they want, right?

Taking my cue from Rush (see previous post) I decided to add in three new topics to the list that I want to speak on; “The Gift of Gab,” “Powerful Powerpoint,” and a program about overcoming fear, “Walk on the Wild Side”. Lo and behold I have already landed engagements for all three.

Yes, we must adapt and give people what they need (and will pay for) to get what we want. However, looking for people who need what we want to offer is often better because we’re passionate about it and likely proficient as well.

Give Them What They Want?