There is one key on our computer that is very powerful, and it’s not “Return / Enter.” It’s “Command + Z.” This allows us to undo whatever we just did. It’s like a rest button.
What would it be like to have an eraser tool in our lives? If we could only go back one step (like “Command Z”) it would mean we could undue the last mistake we made. What was your last mistake?
Mine will probably surprise you. It wasn’t something I said or did. It was something I thought. I let someone get under my skin (which I suspect is what they wanted all along) and it ruined my day–which was an otherwise good day.
Since there is no rewind function, and I can’t repeat the day differently, I am reminded by something Dale Carnegie wrote. He said we should live in day-tight compartments. Meaning, let things go. Ann Landers said holding onto resentment is like letting someone you despise live rent-free in your head.
When I woke up today I hit the reset button (so to speak) and wrote my antagonizer’s name on a piece of paper, lit it on fire, and flushed it down the toilet. It felt good–freeing, even. Let it go, because in a week, month, or year it probably won’t matter any more.
FREE FROM LEE: I am still willing to send out my free set of decision-making cards. Just let me know if you want a deck and I’ll send them as a PDF. firstname.lastname@example.org
Three Life-Changing Books
You probably thought I was going to mention one of my own 23 books, but like many writers, I am an avid reader and the most important books I’ve ever read are:
How to Win Friends and Influence People (Dale Carnegie)
See You at The Top (Zig Ziglar)
Unlimited Power (Anthony Robbins)
Honorable mentions: The Artist’s Way, Think and Grow Rich, The Power of Positive Thinking, and On Writing (Stephen King)
My sons and I were getting a quick bite to eat and the total came to $18.03. I said to the cashier, “I have no sense, but I do have three cents in my car.” He replied, “I trust you,” and handed me two bucks back. Right away I went and got the pennies from my car—proving he could trust me.
This made me realize something, when you give people a good reputation to live up to, often times they will rise to the occasion. “I think it’s great you do your best to be on time,” you may say to the person who is chronically late. Sure enough, this person leaves a little earlier and arrives on time.
It’s the same thing with stating the positive outcome you desire instead of telling someone what you don’t want them to do. As a coach, I often tell my pitchers, “Throw strikes,” instead of, “Don’t walk this hitter.” It works . . . usually. You can do it to yourself, too. Years ago I said to myself, “I always remember my dreams.” Sure enough, I do.