Inch By Inch It’s a Cinch

For months I have put off building a new website for myself because I was afraid. Fear stopped me from starting. I could kick myself now because once I finally faced my fears and started in the new site I realized I had nothing to be afraid of. At first I took baby steps, and after a few days I was off and running. What could we accomplish if we just let go of the outcome and just started with a first step?

Here’s the link to my new website: https://www.leesilber.com
Here’s a link to a song I wrote and recorded for my wife for our 25-year anniversary: https://www.leesilber.com/music
Here’s a link to the hidden page: https://www.leesilber.com/services

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Inch By Inch It’s a Cinch

Every Breath You Take

When my dying friend came to me and asked if I would write a book about her life, I agreed to do it . . . for her. There was no way I was going to say no. I am so proud that so many people have been inspired by Sunshine’s amazing story of adventure, courage, and resilience.

However, now that she has passed, it’s become clear that writing a book about someone who truly lived in the moment, and who’s life was a series of opportunities she said “yes” to—holding nothing back—to experience life to the fullest, was a lesson I needed to learn.

In the past, I would always sign my books differently—a challenge to myself to be in the moment. Yet for my book about Sunshine I found myself often writing the same inscription: “This is the time of your life, make the most of every moment.” It’s something I needed to remind myself of because by nature I’m a worrier.

From Sunshine I learned that much of what bothered me were things I would dredge up from the past. I know this because she told me, “Lee, you can’t change the past, it’s out of your control. Let it go.” She was right, of course. Her advice was to “F” it. Forgive yourself (and others), forget about it, or find a way to learn from it.

Sunshine could see right through me and often when we would meet to talk about her life and her book she would turn it around and the session would be about me. She would ask, “What’s bothering you?” I would reply that I was worried about this or that—things that were way off in the future.

Here advice was to let go of the outcome (which I can’t control anyway) and focus on the process—the things I can do now. (Basically, my choices of what to do, and how I do them, are what create my tomorrow.) Her take was that fear comes from worrying about the future. Sunshine would often tell me to have hope, believe that things would work out the way they were supposed to, and that the universe would provide if I started moving in that direction now.

My biggest regret is that Sunshine passed away before her book was published. I so wanted to sit side by side and sign books together. To see her smile as she took pictures with people holding up the novel based on her life. I know I have no control over when she died, so I focus on what I can do now to honor her. I do that by living in the moment, and at this moment sharing her wise words with you.

THE POWER OF NOW
Action Items Focus on the Now

If you find yourself slipping into regret about the past or worry and fear for the future, let the thought through and then reset yourself with your next (deep breath). Then refocus on the here and now and resume what you are doing with a better mindset.

Wear a bracelet, put a small sticky dot on your phone, set an alarm, put a Post-it Note on the wall to check in and remind you to be 100% focused on what you are doing, who you’re with, and where you are.

We can’t change the past, but we can learn from it so do something better today than you did yesterday. We can’t control the future, but we can do things today to make tomorrow better. If we let go of the past and let go of outcomes and instead just do the best we can with what’s right in front of us, there is a lot less stress.

Attached is a page with the main points of the article and other ideas related to this topic. I hung my copy above my desk. I hope you’ll use yours.

Also, if you have not read Sunshine’s inspiring life story, here’s a link to the novel based on her life. (Still the best book I’ve ever written.) Let me know if you order a copy. It makes me feel good to know her message is getting out there.

Every Breath You Take

Field of Dreams

Life Lessons From The Field of Dreams

Most people have seen the film Field of Dreams where Ray Kinsella hears a voice in his Iowa cornfield who whispers, “If you build it, he will come”. So the farmer plows his crop and to build a baseball field.

Everyone thinks Ray is crazy—especially when nothing happens after he builds the field. Then Shoeless Joe Jackson, a long dead baseball player appears and soon brings other baseball ghosts to play on this beautiful ball field built on a farm.

The problem is only Ray and his wife and daughter can see the players. The family is also about to lose the farm to creditors and they are being pressured to sell. Lastly, Ray goes on a road trip find a reclusive writer and bring him back from Boston.

So what can we learn?

ONE: Sometimes we have to take a leap of faith and believe things will work out, even when others don’t get it. In the end, things do work out for Ray and his family.

TWO: When we are driven by purpose (like Ray was) you don’t give up when times get tough or people slam doors in your face—like Terrance Mann did to Ray.

In the film Ray asks one time, “What’s in it for me?” But, he really did what he did without knowing (or caring) how he would benefit.

Failure, hard work, persistence, purpose, passion, selflessness, and hope are qualities Ray displays in the film. It is these same traits that can lead us to beat the odds and build our own “field of dreams” (whatever they may be).

Lee Silber is the award winning author of 24 books, a popular presenter, and a baseball fanatic and coach. leesilber@leesilber.com

Field of Dreams

Don’t Major in the Minors

In baseball, consistently hitting singles can lead to a nice career. However, hit a ton of home runs and you are a superstar. It’s the same in life.

If all we do is complete the urgent and easy tasks each day, we’ll do fine. If instead we take a swing at the big things (we know what they are because they scare us) we can achieve greatness because so few try for fear of striking out.

Years ago my Service Core of Retired Executives advisor told me that I had already mastered writing local books (singles) and that it was time to write something with national appeal (home runs). He was right, and I hit the first book out of the park with Random House.

Is your things-to-do list full of easy tasks that take up all of your time? What is the thing that most scares you to do–you’ll know what it is because you have probably been putting it off. My advice, step up to the plate and swing for the fences.

Don’t Major in the Minors

Beyond Baseball

Since I coach baseball, football, and basketball, youth sports has been a year-round thing for the past few years. Right now I am on a break and with time to reflect, I’d like to share what I’ve learned from coaching that could help you, too.

Think Long-Term. Last football season we were undefeated and many games we could have potentially won 40-0. Instead, as a coach I emptied the bench, called conservative plays, and even had the kids take a knee at the opposition’s goal line instead of scoring. Teaching good sportsmanship was part of it. The other part was we will likely face these same coaches again next year and there is no need to make an enemy by running up the score. Don’t step on others to get ahead and don’t burn any bridges in business, either.

Know What You Don’t Know. This year we won the championship because I was smart enough to let my coaches coach. I teamed up with a former minor league manager and although I ran the team, I listened and learned as he instructed the players. Instead of being intimidated by the experience and expertise of another coach, I embraced it. To the coach’s credit, he was respectful of me as the manager and would make in-game suggestions (which I listened to) that made me look like a genius. Find someone better than you at what you do and be willing to look and feel inferior in order to learn and grow.

Focus on the Positive. I find it’s better to point out when a player does something right and give them a compliment as something to strive for instead of always telling them what they did wrong. “I like the way you fouled off those tough pitches, kid.” (Even if the player eventually struck out.) And, “You’re a good two-strike hitter. I know that next time you’ll get a hit.” I also like to say to a player what I want instead of what I don’t want. For example, I will say, “Throw strikes,” instead of, “Don’t walk this bottom-of-the-order hitter.”

Beyond Baseball

For The Love of the Game

I was watching a video of bassist Abraham Laboriel accepting a lifetime achievement award and he explained his success and longevity was a result of his love of playing.

I love being on a stage as a speaker. I just wish I could do it more. I’ve attached a list of my latest topics (I have 52 total) in case you know of an association, organization, or group that needs a speaker.

Just let me know who they are and I will do the rest. Thank you so much for your help.

Positive-Lee Great Topics

For The Love of the Game

Win The Day

Be Better

Are you a competitive person? Most people answer, “Yes” to that question. Let’s use that competitiveness and combine it with compound improvement. If we win on the small things, it can add up to big improvements over time. Here’s some examples.

Win your things-to-do list. (More things are checked off than left unchecked.)

Win in prime time. (You do your most important work when you are most energized.)

Win your choices. (You choose to exercise, eat right, or learn something new.)

Win with extra effort. (You do one more thing when you think you’ve done it all already.)

Win the day. (You know you made the most of every moment.)

Win The Day