My sons and I were getting a quick bite to eat and the total came to $18.03. I said to the cashier, “I have no sense, but I do have three cents in my car.” He replied, “I trust you,” and handed me two bucks back. Right away I went and got the pennies from my car—proving he could trust me.
This made me realize something, when you give people a good reputation to live up to, often times they will rise to the occasion. “I think it’s great you do your best to be on time,” you may say to the person who is chronically late. Sure enough, this person leaves a little earlier and arrives on time.
It’s the same thing with stating the positive outcome you desire instead of telling someone what you don’t want them to do. As a coach, I often tell my pitchers, “Throw strikes,” instead of, “Don’t walk this hitter.” It works . . . usually. You can do it to yourself, too. Years ago I said to myself, “I always remember my dreams.” Sure enough, I do.
As baseball coaches we sometimes sell kids short . . . literally. Sure, most kids aren’t going to make it to the big leagues–and those who will are likely to be the tallest ones. Yet, there are (and have been) plenty of players under six-feet tall.
Jose Altuve is 5’-6” “tall” and weighs 165 pounds, making him the smallest player in the big leagues. He is also the best hitter in baseball over the past six years, being chosen as an All Star and winning the World Series and Most Valuable Player Award in 2017.
When I was young ballplayer I was a Freddie Patek fan. Patek was an All Star shortstop with the Royals who led the league in several offensive and defensive categories. Freddie Patek was 5’-4” tall, but he played much bigger.
Patek once said, “I’d rather be the shortest player in the in the majors than the tallest player in the minors.”
It’s not just being small ion stature and bucking the odds, it’s being seen as less-than-others in some way and overcoming.
Just when you’re feeling good about yourself you’ll hop on Facebook or Instragram and see someone standing next to their fancy new car, looking fabulous in their fashionable new clothes, or celebrating their amazing new job.
It’s natural (and honest) to feel envious or inadequate, to want all that (and more) for yourself. It’s human nature. However, if we don’t look at other people’s postings, maybe we won’t feel those twangs of envy. Just sayin’.
When we compare ourselves to others (and social media has brought this to the forefront) there are always going to be people who (seemingly) have more than we do. If you’re happy with who you are and what you have, enjoy it. Celebrate it. Appreciate it. Accept it.
The only other way to see it is to be happy for those who have “made it” or have it made. Or, use it to fuel your fire to lose weight, start a business, work harder, do more, and get your butt in gear. Turn envy into empathy and feelings of inadequacy into energy–and engage more in your own life.
The Second Half of the Year Starts Now
If the first half of this year was all you hoped it would be, keep it going in the second half (which starts this month). If January to June was nothing like you hoped it would be, start over with a new approach for the second half.
Good or bad, what each camp has in common is a hope that the (immediate) future will be better. I have one foot in each camp–the year started strong and didn’t slow down until June. I believe good things are right around the corner–I have to believe that.
The minute we start to go to the dark side (doom and gloom) we’re done. If I believed a book wouldn’t sell, nobody is booking speakers, or I’ll never be skinny again, I would just quit trying. However, hope fuels the fire that propels us (me) forward.
I’m going to work extra hard this summer to set things up for a successful fall and winter. I’m optimistic, but also realistic. For me, things don’t just happen, I have to make them happen. How about you? Are you hopeful or are you skeptical? Are you proactive or reactive? Do you believe things will be better?
How to Always Be Needed
I was recently using recording software and the designers made the digital features look like the old analog ones—with knobs and sliders. It made me feel relevant because I took what I knew and it allowed me to do it better with new technology.
It’s easy to feel left behind by the latest and greatest of everything. It’s always been this way—things change—but it happens sooner, faster, and more often now.
So how do we stay relevant in an ever-changing world?
Just keep up on the areas of change that most impact you and your career.
Partner with people in the know and exchange your experience for their know how.
Go the other way and find people who still prefer the old way and offer them your goods or services.
“IT’S A FAMILY AFFAIR.” —Sly Stone
Many parents believe they are running a family. Many bosses believe they are running a business. Many Principals believe they are running a school. None of them are 100% correct.
The truth is each one is running a training company. Maybe the best example is the family as a training company. The best parents are instructors, motivators, and most of all, good examples to their kids.
“THEY CALL ME THE WORKING MAN, I GUESS THAT’S WHAT I AM.” —Rush
It’s no secret I have been a huge fan of the band Rush since 1977. I’m not the only one. The band inspires that kind of long term loyalty from fans worldwide. Why is that, and what can we learn from it?
The number one reason is they are unapologetic about their unique sound. The critics have always bashed the band, which won them more fans who also saw themselves as outside the mainstream.
Even when record sales were slow (and they were almost dropped by their label after their third album) they stuck to their guns and went on the road to win over fans with their inspiring live shows and musicianship.
What fans love is the honesty in Rush’s music—and their humility in spite of immense success. They do what they do best and attract others who appreciate them for not selling out–except every seat, every night.
Be true to you. The next article exemplifies how I made a minor shift after I was sick and spent the day listening to my entire Rush collection of music. I was inspired to live my truth and trusted that people will get it.