Ann Landers said, “Hanging onto resentment is letting someone you despise live rent-free in your head.” It seems like the busier people become the more they slight others. Most times they have no idea they have disrespected us, disregarded our feelings, and dissed us–they’re too busy to notice . . . or care.
We would love to let them know that it’s not okay. We’d like to slap some sense into them. We feel like we need to change the way they deal with the world. The truth is we can’t change other people, we can only give them a good example to follow. We also can’t let them get to us. Many of us have a hard time with this. We feel like we always do the right thing and others should, too–or suffer our wrath.
We also don’t want to “just let it go” because if we do we are somehow diminished because we “just took it” and did nothing. Author Richard Carlson (and others) recommend we ask ourselves, “Will it matter in a month?” If the answer is “No” we should let it go.
The saying, “Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me,” applies here. If someone is a repeat offender when it comes to treating you poorly, don’t just let it go, let them go. There are plenty of nice people out there and maybe we don’t meet enough of them because we are wasting our time with people who are not nice. Let’s make room in our life for someone new (and better).
This woman’s voice mail message said it all: “I’m not available right now, I’m busy making changes in my life. Thank you for calling. Leave a message, if I don’t call you back, you are one of those changes.”
OTHER QUOTES BY ANN LANDERS https://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/276090.Ann_Landers