Circle of Friends

Social Circles

Sure, we see young people “hanging out” in groups, yet each one has their head buried in their own phone. However, I noticed something this summer that I hadn’t seen before. Groups of girls (and guys) laying on towels at the beach in a circle (with their heads facing one another). In the past people would lay out side by side facing the ocean. Interesting, right? Could it be that we are more social in person thanks to social media?

Beach Etiquette

Circle of Friends

The Selection Process

Picking The Right Person 

I recently saw a special on television about couples who have been happily married for decades. They asked each one how they did it. The answers were what you would expect–communication, commitment, understanding, love, and trust. However, several couples also said the key to a long and happy life with another lies in the selection process.

My wife and I celebrated out 22nd wedding anniversary this month. When I first met her I just knew she was the one–and I was right. The reason I share this is I was engaged the year before I met my wife and quickly realized this other person was not the one. Oh how different my life would be if I had married someone else–and not in a good way.

So how does this apply to you? Could it be that Nordstrom, Southwest, and The Ritz Carlton are on to something when they say the secret to good customer service is in selecting the right employees rather than trying to train someone to be caring, considerate, and conscientious?

Choosing who are clients are is also important. We want people who love what we do, pay on time, and treat us with respect. Choosing who to partner with in business can be like a marriage, and a bad coupling can cause a lot of problems. We can’t always pick our boss, but when we can (they interviewed us or have been there for years) we should be selective.

It’s time we take the time to make sure we carefully choose who we want to partner with and who we don’t because people can change, but usually don’t.

The Selection Process

Good Call

Making Good Choices

What we choose to do today has a ripple effect in the future. When we consistently make good choices about how we spend our time and what we focus on can create positive outcomes for months to come.

After testing and using a system I developed for deciding what to do next (and what not to do next) and deciding between good and great opportunities, I am ready to share it with the world.

Using a worksheet and deck of custom cards a person can rate a project or path to determine if it’s worth the time and effort. These cards also help to determine what’s the best choice when faced with several options.

I’m making my system available for $10.00 (my cost, essentially) for people to try. In addition to creating a deck of cards that work well with adult decisions, I am working on one for teens and young adults. I create a GoFundMe account to help me get kids to try these cards out. If you donate $20 I’ll send you a set and set one aside to give to a teen to try.

Good Call

Summer “Time”


All the time in the world? Hmmmmm. Well, if my calculations are correct we all have 70 days until the official end of summer–and less until school starts. We also only have 4,300 hours until the end of the year (and only 2,900 waking hours.)

Let’s take a minute (pun intended) to look at how we look at time. We have a tendency to believe we have the time to do it all and if we can’t, we’ll just get to it tomorrow. What if there were no tomorrow? As we hear of all the people murdered this month in the news I wonder if they woke up the day they died thinking they had all the time in the world to do what they needed and wanted to–but were waiting till later to do them.

I say we should make a “Bucket List” for 2016 to include the things we want to do before the end of summer and the end of the year. It’s good to be spontaneous, but it’s better to have an idea of what YOU want to do so you don’t end up doing all the things others want to do.

We make fun of the Millennials because they want it all and they want it now. That’s not all bad. They value time more than their parents did. If you watch commercials aimed at the younger market you’ll notice they are selling the idea that you should have the time of your life . . . and you should have it now.

Does it feel like the first half of the year flew by? Usually the second half goes be even faster. Let’s make the most of our time before we turn the clock and the calendar to 2017.

2016 Countdown (As of July 13, 2016)

172 Days

4,300 Hours

128,000 Minutes

Summer “Time”

A Novel Tale

The next worst thing to being told you have cancer is to have a close friend or relative tell you they have it.

When Sunshine called me to tell me she was diagnosed with Stage 4 lung cancer I couldn’t believe it. She never smoked and was the most health conscious person I knew. Although she didn’t let on how serious her situation was, she did ask me to come and see her right away.

In our first meeting she asked me if I would finish the book she had started about her life. From that day until she died less than a year later we met nearly every Wednesday and she shared her life story with me.

I am proud to announce that “Sunshine” is completed and will be released later this summer. It’s a novel based on her true story and it is by far my best book yet (and I’ve written 21 others.)

For a limited time I am sending out a sample chapter of the book for anyone who is interested.

A Novel Tale