Are You A Good Friend?

You’ve Got a Friend

Many readers of my new novel have written me to say what a good friend I was to Sunshine. In a way, they’re right. It’s not every day a friend asks another to meet once a week, listen to all of the stories from their past, and then promise to write a book based on their life–but that’s what I did. So yes, in many ways I was a good friend to Sunshine.

However, before Sunshine got sick and we began working on her book, I think I could have been a better friend to her. At the end of the new novel I included an open letter I wrote to Sunshine. It was very emotional and difficult to write because I admit my failings as a friend. Looking back I realize I could have been better at calling her back faster, thanking her more, and doing more things with her when she asked.

After much reflection I put together a list of things that a good friend does. It’s a kind of checklist to test how you rate as a friend and how others stack up, too. I can’t go back and change things with my late friend, Sunshine, but I can be a better friend to those around me now. That’s my pledge. 

If you would like to read the open letter to Sunshine featured at the end of the book, just send me an e-mail and I’ll send it to you.


__ They are good listeners and easy to talk to.
__ They return your calls and reply to your texts quickly and nicely.
__ They are fun to be around and time flies when you’re together.
__ They remember your birthday and other important dates.
__ They cheer you on and celebrate your success. They are not jealous.
__ They are supportive and make you feel good about yourself.
__ They are not judgemental and your friendship is unconditional.
__ They have a lot in common with you, or you both have a passion for the same things.
__ They don’t have to live nearby, and when you don’t see them often, it feels like you have.
__ They don’t bad mouth you behind your back. Instead, they sing your praises to others.
__ They find ways to show they care . . .  about you.
__ They’re always there when you need them.
__ They have your back and stick up for you.
__ They are honest and can be trusted.
__ They’re there in good times and bad.
__ They respect you and your time.
__ They give more than they take.
__ They understand you.

Are You A Good Friend?

Passion is the Key to Promotion

I’ve always told people who have a problem promoting and selling their work to choose projects they are passionate about, focus on ideas that bring out their best, and find things that serve others so that it would be hard NOT to talk about what they are working on.

With that, I want to tell you about my new novel, “Sunshine”. My passion for the project came from my good friend entrusting me to tell her amazing and fascinating life story. She did it all and overcame so many obstacles along the way I knew it would make a great book.

When Sunshine came to me with the idea of a book about her life she knew she only had a few months left to live and she said she chose me because she’d read all 21 of my other books and loved them. That gave me the confidence to take on and tackle such a big project.

Although this is a novel that includes Sunshine’s time hanging out with celebrities in Hollywood, working and living in the Caribbean, traveling through Europe in a van, and escaping from Morocco, underneath all the adventures is a very powerful message that Sunshine wanted to get out.

I guess what I am saying is, I am so proud of this book, I know it’s a very entertaining read that is appropriate for all ages, and reading it will make people see things a little differently. So when I ask you to buy the book (or write a review on Amazon) I do it confidently and without any hesitation. You’ll love it.

Here’s How You Can Help With “Sunshine”

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Passion is the Key to Promotion

Circle of Friends

Social Circles

Sure, we see young people “hanging out” in groups, yet each one has their head buried in their own phone. However, I noticed something this summer that I hadn’t seen before. Groups of girls (and guys) laying on towels at the beach in a circle (with their heads facing one another). In the past people would lay out side by side facing the ocean. Interesting, right? Could it be that we are more social in person thanks to social media?

Beach Etiquette

Circle of Friends

The Selection Process

Picking The Right Person 

I recently saw a special on television about couples who have been happily married for decades. They asked each one how they did it. The answers were what you would expect–communication, commitment, understanding, love, and trust. However, several couples also said the key to a long and happy life with another lies in the selection process.

My wife and I celebrated out 22nd wedding anniversary this month. When I first met her I just knew she was the one–and I was right. The reason I share this is I was engaged the year before I met my wife and quickly realized this other person was not the one. Oh how different my life would be if I had married someone else–and not in a good way.

So how does this apply to you? Could it be that Nordstrom, Southwest, and The Ritz Carlton are on to something when they say the secret to good customer service is in selecting the right employees rather than trying to train someone to be caring, considerate, and conscientious?

Choosing who are clients are is also important. We want people who love what we do, pay on time, and treat us with respect. Choosing who to partner with in business can be like a marriage, and a bad coupling can cause a lot of problems. We can’t always pick our boss, but when we can (they interviewed us or have been there for years) we should be selective.

It’s time we take the time to make sure we carefully choose who we want to partner with and who we don’t because people can change, but usually don’t.

The Selection Process